Single Mom, It’s OK to Know How to Ask For Help

“God heard the boy crying, and the angel of God called to Hagar from heaven and said to her, “what is the matter, Hagar? Do not be afraid; God had heard the boy crying as he lies there. Lift the boy up and take him by the hand, for I will make him into a great nation.” Gen 21: 17-18

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As a single mom, have you ever felt the weight of the world on your shoulders? Like your kids’ well being is your full responsibility? Or is it just me? Because on numerous occasions I get anxiety attacks just trying to figure out on my own my son’s future.

If that’s your case, I have good news for you…

You’re completely… WRONG! God says He’s the Father to the fatherless, so He will never leave you by yourself in such a privileged but difficult task.

Just as God helped Hagar and Ishmael He’s going to help you.

He will be by your side every step of the way and will give you the grace for whatever season you’re in with your children – newborn, toddlers, pre-teens, teens or adults

Also as a Christian, God has placed you in a community (our family in Christ – the church) for you to cry out for help whenever you needed, especially if it’s about your children.

Even though this should be clear to us, sometimes it’s not and that’s why I’m saying it… Christian community is meant to be there to help you as a single mom.

Our church family is there to help us as single moms

As single moms, we often make the mistake of going through difficult situations on our own because we think that’s the way is meant to be, but if you’re in a healthy Christian community don’t be afraid of reaching out to people and letting them know practical ways how they can help you.

You’ll be surprised by how they might respond…

When I first moved to PA and my son was 6 years old, for Christmas time I didn’t have anyone to watch him for me to go Christmas shopping, in desperation I asked one of the girls from the church if she could watch him while I went shopping, she said yes right away. That was a big blessing!

On another occasion, I wanted to go to a conference with the rest of the ladies from church, so my friend asked her husband to watch my son with all their other kids.. they gave me a whole Saturday for myself (Praise Jesus! lol).

Also, a couple of times young men have taken him out to do boy stuff which I appreciate because that’s a bonding time he needs with a male figure.

Bottom line moms, God has not forsaken you, just be intentional about asking for help in this season of your life.

If you’re not part of a healthy Christian community, start praying right now! God will provide for you.

We need to remember the church is a place for us to help and be helped, and no one is going to think less of you if  you’re vulnerable and you let others know you and your kids need help.

Also, when we give others the chance to serve us it’s a blessing for us and for them, and our kids will have the best example of what it means to live in a Christian community.

I pray that the Lord will open your eyes and you might see all the people you have around to help you. You’re not own your own, at least not in God’s kingdom.

And if you’re not a single mom but you know one, think of ways you can be a blessing to her and her children. Think of practical ways in which you can serve them. Ask her, be intentional. You have no idea how much she needs it today.

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