“Mom, Why Are You And My Dad Not Together?” – Revealing Our Sinful Nature

It wasn’t a mistake; it was sin.

That’s how I started answering the question my 11 year old, who has grown up with just me, asked me recently.

Because of his age, I was very careful with my words.

“Sebas, your dad and I aren’t together due to the sin in our hearts. We gave ourselves to it and didn’t consider its consequences. That’s its trick. In the beginning, it never reveals the harm it is going to cause.”

That was my answer. I was intentional in using the word sin, and not “mistake” or “misunderstanding”.

The details don’t matter. In the end, what our separation revealed was the root of sin in our hearts.

Our children are exposed to many hours in front of the T.V, YouTube, music, and social media. The media shows to have one goal in common: to numb the awareness of our need for a Savior.

Their agenda is to promote humankind as people who are good by nature. According to them, our “wrong behavior” is the result of the negative impact of our surroundings and other people’s misconduct.

They want to teach lies to our children. To make them believe that we’re victims of the culture. Therefore we don’t need to be responsible for the wrong choices and their consequences in our lives. Consequently, we don’t need a Savior who breaks us free from our sin.

Our responsibility as moms is to help them filter all these false philosophies the media is bombarding at them. Whether we realize it or not, each day our children are being shaped according to some ideology. We must seek for it to be a Christ-center one.

We need to teach them what sin is and its consequences. We need to be honest and show them the evidence in our own lives.

They must know we’re redeemed sinners. Before, we were dead in our sins and trespasses; now, because we have accepted the sacrifice of Christ on the cross, we live.

They need to understand that the precious blood of Christ is so valuable that covered all of our sins.  But at the same time, our sins were so costly (eternal death) that only His precious blood could pay it.

As moms, we have a great influence on whom our children grow up to be. Our goal, as Christians, should be that they have a right idea of themselves and others around them.

Christ didn’t come to die for people who make mistakes or have wrong behaviors. He came to die for sinners.

“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Rom 5:8

About the author: Anyeline is a mom to one, lover of Jesus, and enjoys a great cup of coffee. She is originally from the Dominican Republic, but is now a proud U.S. citizen. When visiting our church, you can find her teaching our young adult women or helping out in children’s ministry. She always has a smile and a warm greeting for friends and strangers alike.